THE STORY BEHIND THE BLOG

This blog started as a place for me to put a few stories I had written about a dad and his two kids and the "everyday adventures" they had together. But it has sort of evolved into a hodge podge of dad related thoughts, stories, songs, and other misc. things.

Saturday, March 26, 2016

How do we keep failing so many kids?

These thoughts have been swirling around in my head for the last several days.  I have no answers, only questions.  I write them here just to see if expressing them brings any new perspective.

A few days ago, our community lost another teenager to suicide.  Another.  This would be horrifying enough as an isolated case...but it isn't.   Not even close.  Another?!?!?

How do we keep failing so many kids?

I hear two opposing views on kids and parenting:
Kids today face more pressure than ever before.  Social media, year round sports, grades, jobs, scholarships...all these are making our kids stressed out way too soon.  They don't have a chance to be kids.
Kids today are coddled by helicopter parents and never given a chance to fail.  They are soft and spoiled.

How can these both be true?  Every child is different and deserves their own middle ground on the scale between the world asking too much or too little from them.

How can we encourage without pressuring? Support without coddling?  Let them fail without them feeling abandoned?

I don't have the answers.
I have no idea if I'm doing it right with my own kids.
I pray that I am.
I pray that we all are.